Jealousy is a feeling that arises from time to time and really hinders your self-confidence if you feel it frequently.
You might be jealous of someone that has a better car than you, larger house than you, higher-paying job than you, etc.
Usually, from personal experience, the people that I have been jealous of in the past have been good friends, people that I used to be friends with, relatives, and people I’ve known for a long time.
Jealousy is a feeling that is caused by comparing yourself to another person, and feeling bitter towards that person and/or inadequate about yourself.
It’s a very selfish feeling if you think about it. I know I used to think in my mind, “Wow…really? This dude has a better paying job than I do? And he hasn’t even worked as hard as I have…totally not fair. Ugh.”
These kinds of thoughts would always diminish my self-confidence and sometimes even make me feel so bad that I would get sick.
Now, how do I know if the guy that has a better paying job than I do hasn’t work as hard as I have? How can I even measure that?
Who am I to judge him for his work ethic when I wasn’t his professor in college or his manager in his current job?
But most importantly, who am I to judge someone and dictate just how much he/she deserves in his life?
I’m no one to judge. I should let the universe judge him and just be happy for him.
I think that’s one of the biggest problems we have as a society.
We are bitter towards other people sometimes because we feel like they are more “successful” than we are. Instead of feeling better, why not just be happy for them and feel grateful for what we have currently?
Sometimes it’s important to make friends that don’t have as much as you in life, so you realize just how many blessings you do have in your life.
Be grateful, be genuine, and most importantly, be happy for others’ success as well as your own.
Lesson of the day:
Whenever you get hit with the feeling of jealousy, remember that you are no one to judge that person. Be happy for that individual’s success in his/her life and move on with yours. The more you focus on what others have that you don’t, the more upset/angry you will be. Just let it go. It’s not worth holding on to these petty feelings.
Most importantly, stop comparing yourself to others. Compare your current self to your past self, and discover how much success you have had in your life. If you aren’t happy about it, then you have no one else to blame, but yourself. So get out there, gain some motivation, create that momentum, and strive for success!
I hope you all enjoyed today’s post and hope you will join me on the journey to self-confidence mastery.
– Steve Daniels
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